Five Ways to Totally Destroy Your Dreams Right Now

Are you sabotaging your success by believing any of these lies?

Frank McKinley
4 min readOct 6, 2022


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Fred Smith, Sr. said this years ago:

Fantasy’s function is to change reality.

What is your dream? What do you wish that your future would look like?

Dreams are healthy when they stretch us. When they are so far from reality they can never come true, dreams can devastate us.

Let’s take a look at some popular ways we sabotage ourselves.

Believe that “if you build it, they will come.”

Field of Dreams is an old movie.

It was popular because we all wish we could just do something and experience guaranteed success.

Sometimes we see someone who came out of nowhere to become an “overnight success.” What we don’t see is all the years of preparation that person put in to make that opportunity count.

Effort doesn’t come with a success guarantee. Granted, some things are more effective than others. At best, you succeed when you throw enough spaghetti at the wall to find some that sticks.

Malcolm Gladwell wrote that it typically takes 10,000 hours for someone to become a master at their craft. Given that most nights are only 8 hours, overnight success usually comes after the 10,000.

Be patient. Unless you want your dream to die on the vine, don’t believe the myth of overnight success.

Believe a friend, relative, or guru knows more than you about your dream.

Have you ever asked your friends and family what they think about the book you’re writing?

Chances are they’ll say one of these things:

  • Wow, that’s the most amazing thing ever!
  • That’s a nice hobby you have there, but don’t expect to make a living at it.
  • Sure, I’ll look at it (and later you find out they didn’t)

If they were honest, they might give their opinion but also say, “I’m not really qualified to give you advice on this.”



Frank McKinley

I like to figure things out and share what I find. My favorite topics are faith, communication, business, and personal growth.